The tortured’s love for the torturer.

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In a world consumed by what everyone else is doing – judging, not judging, accepting, rejecting, comparing, ignoring, analysing, pitying, idolising – I love this quote by Frederik Buechner (an american author and theologian). It will challenge you.

“The love for equals is a human thing–of friend for friend, brother for brother. It is to love what is loving and lovely. The world smiles. The love for the less fortunate is a beautiful thing–the love for those who suffer, for those who are poor, the sick, the failures, the unlovely. This is compassion, and it touches the heart of the world. The love for the more fortunate is a rare thing–to love those who succeed where we fail, to rejoice without envy with those who rejoice, the love of the poor for the rich. The world is always bewildered by its saints. And then there is the love for the enemy–love for the one who does not love you but mocks, threatens, and inflicts pain. The tortured’s love for the torturer. This is God’s love. It conquers the world.” 
                         – Frederick Buechner

It reno time!

For those who aren’t regular readers, my husband and I bought a house in April and we are starting to get serious about doing some renos – Yay McFreakity Yay!

Needless to say I am in my element. If Pinterest was a problem for me before, well let’s just say, pray for me!

Get ready for the onslaught of reno pics as well as probably too much information on every single detail! First up is the kitchen and I am super excited. I was going to keep it a mystery – with a big unveiling but I thought it would be far more interesting for those of you playing at home to go on the journey with me!

Here is what our 20 year old kitchen looks now!

Kitchen Before

The U-shape will be reconfigured to an L-shape bench along the back and side wall, with lower cabinets and top cabinets down one side, and a servery onto our entertaining patio off the other.

The return bench which formed the u-shape will be going and replaced with a decent sized island with two of the most divine pendants ever created! To add a little classic farmhouse style we will have the token butlers sink and gas cooker – which husband is super excited about as he gets to buy a new wok (insert eye roll). There adds another 10 minutes at the butcher.

First to go is the window (as the bench will be built to the servery) which we are hoping will be replaced in the next couple of weeks. So it will soon be actions stations! Brace yourself.

Make sure you are following me on Instagram to see the progress!

Tunns xo

Capsule Wardrobe – Half Way Report

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A few of my loyal readers (you know who you are) have been asking about the capsule wardrobe! So I thought I would give you a, slightly over, half way report.

All in all, I have found it soooooooo much easier having the capsule wardrobe. Never stuck for something to wear – everything goes with everything! It’s kind of like having a big uniform but with lots of combinations to choose from, saving me time in the mornings not having to think too much about what to wear! Leaving more time for drinking coffee and becoming human.

I have, however, stumbled over a few littles issues to take into consideration when planning for the Spring capsule! I guess I’ll share with you too so you can learn from my mistake (I am such a giver!).

Tip 1 – Transition Pieces

Living in a sub-tropical climate you never truly know when the shift from hot to cold will happen. Just when you think the season has changed, your likely to get a once-in-a-10-year-freaking-hot-day in autumn or winter for that matter. For this reason, I kept out a few “transitional pieces”, as I boxed up all my summer gear. A couple of extra tops to throw on should it get unseasonably steamy!

Tip 2 – Have all the items by the start of the season or you run short

There are still pieces I intended on purchasing before the autumn/winter season but for whatever reason haven’t gotten around to getting. Given the capsule is purposely designed both practically and aesthetically – this left holes in my wardrobe and  resulted compromised outfits! Argh – first world problems.

I blame not creating “The List” early enough and therefor not having enough time for perfect piece hunting. Will not make that mistake again!

Tip 3 – Add an “around the house” category

Even though my outfits were lovely, they were geared towards leaving the house! I ended up pulling out a few old jeans and shirts (and a couple of comfy trackies – I know some of you are shocked!) to wear on the days I was locked away inside, doing housework, playing with kids, covered in what I am hoping was vegemite.

So there you go! A few little tips/mistakes for you to take fourth and learn from! Is anyone planning a Spring Capsule? I have started a Pinterest Board…we should share ideas.

Altering your capsule to fit your saving dreams.

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My full mid-way capsule wardrobe report will be up later this week but I thought I would share these great tips from therealjlow about budgeting for a capsule wardrobe!

Hope they are helpful!

Tunns
xoxo

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Altering your capsule to fit your saving dreams.

Whether you are paying off debt or saving up for a big purchase like a house or a car or even a big event like a wedding or having a baby, saving or just spending less and saving more can be incredibly difficult.

When I was younger I vividly remember watching Alvin Hall’s “Your money or your life” and I remember being transfixed as he showed all types of people from different walks of life as to how if they continue the way they are that this could potentially ruin their lives. He was clearly a subscriber to tough love and shock tactics but that coupled with my parents strong beliefs on avoiding debt and I have always been a little bit petrified of over spending. That’s not to say I don’t have debt like most I have student loans but the…

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3 Ways to Get Passionate

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And before your mind goes somewhere it shouldn’t (or should maybe…depending on your relationship status) I’ll clarify, get passionate about a cause.

We have all heard the benefits of being involved in something outside of ourselves, whether it’s a charity, social enterprise or local cause. Deep down we all love to give – time, money, resources. It makes us feel a part of something, like we belong. It makes us feel good. It makes us happier.

But did you know it can also make you healthier. Altrusim is said to reduce stress which in-turn can increase our immune system. Some studies have also shown it to decrease mortality rates! (See this article by the Berkley Wellness Centre) Not a bad couple of bonus’ really!

So what are some ways you can start enjoying the benefits of giving a bit…or a lot if you can!

1. Choose a cause that speaks to you. Maybe its in an area you or someone you know has had experience in – such as a certain illness or disadvantage. If it is something that is close to your heart, you generally wont need any extra motivation to want to get in and help.

2. Research & Sign-up. Look into that area, get educated on what challenges that particular cause might be facing – raising awareness, financial pressure or political barriers. The more you know about the cause, the easier it will be for you to identify how to help. It will also help you in talking to others and getting them to care about your cause too! Sign up to an e-newsletter so you can stay up to date with whats happening, events that are coming up or resources they need.

3. Do. Giving isn’t always about money. While sometimes that might be a real need of a cause, a lot of the time awareness is just as crucial. Getting people to understand the battle organisations are facing, whether its against disease, political repression, environmental protection, humanitarian issues, distribution of knowledge is key to combating problems. This is the part when you jump in and start to get passionate.
Do by:

– Hosting fundraisers
– Donating regularly
– Speaking! The most easiest thing you can do. Be an Ambassador and spread the word about your cause.

Change your perspective on your life by getting passionate about a cause. You will definitely feel happier and you may even be healthier too!

Tunns
xoxo

Have some ideas on other ways to get involved? Share them in the comments below – I would love to hear them! I would also love to hear about the organisations you care about, I may be able to feature them on the blog.

The “F” Word

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There is this great lyric by Emilie Sandè:

“You have a heart as loud as Lions, so why let your voice be tamed”

I love this. The Lion – king of the jungle. The loudest roar of the animal kingdom. No fear. Ready for any challenge that presents itself. Never to back away from an enemy but holds ground – steadfast and courageous.

I would love for this to be me. To still roar loudly no matter of what was in front of me. Always on alert to protect the right order. Fearing nothing or at least not letting it alter my resolve.

But us humans, we scare easily. It’s a good thing we are at the top of the food chain otherwise we would be in trouble!

We may have a heart as loud as lions but we struggle with the roaring part. Fear of backlash, fear of rejection, fear of persecution, fear of looking silly, fear of not being heard.

A deep ingrained fear of doing – anything. Speaking, acting, doing. We all have it. Do you remember being in school, when you would raise your hand to answer a question and then it would rise up? That immediate unease – what if I give the wrong answer, I would seem dumb. What will everyone think of what I say or how I speak? Fear.

That awful little four letter F word that has probably be holding the world back since….well forever.

Fear is such a big obstacle. It’s the enemy’s greatest weapon and our biggest barrier to anything good. Fear can cripple our dreams and cripple anything good in the world. Fear tames our roar.

Loosing someone is a harsh jolt to reality. We live ONCE. ONCE! and it is never long enough. Even when its been 30 years – it feels like it’s over to soon. Since loosing Mum, I have decided that no little F word is going to let me not LIVE! Not ROAR.

Here are my suggestions to break down fear and let your roar rip!

1. Write down what fear is holding you back from.

2. Tell fear to “suck it” and do it anyway.

Maybe people will think you are silly or a try hard or wrong. But you definitely don’t need that kind of negativity in your life so ignore them. Those people are generally either caught in fear themselves or jealous, or both. Greatness lies in doing. Nothing, zip, zero would have ever happened in the world if we all succumbed to fear. Dreaming and fearing is a viscous cycle – one the enemy wants to see you caught in so you don’t do anything amazing.

You have a heart as loud as lions, so WHY let your voice be tamed?

Listen to yo’ Mumma!

So you know those things your mum says to you and you think to yourself “yes mum”, “I know mum” but never really take them on board or put them in the nagging box..

Well turns out, for me at lease, I think the mums are on to something.  I was recently thinking about things Mum used to say to me and now that she isn’t here to say it anymore, I have come to realise just how good advice it was. Little gems that really are the foundations to living simply and graciously. Here are a few of my favourite! 

Mind your Ps & Qs

Really there is no excuse for bad manners. Everyone has been taught at some point in their lives to use good manners. Not only does it display your character to others but is also a sign of respect. That you respect this person enough to be polite – whether its deserved or not. Working in PR I often find the use of profoundly good manners (“oh thank you so much” or “please would you mind”) will also work in your favour if seeking something at short notice or to get your brand chosen above others! When dealing with negative people, no one can get mad at you when you are being sickly sweet. So make sure you “mind your Ps & Qs” – it goes a long way.

If you haven’t got anything nice to say – don’t say anything!

Mean things will always come back to you, and while it reflects more on your character than the person you are talking to or about, meanness is just not cool. We are human and sometimes what we think just comes out – I have been guilty of this on more than one occasion and I shudder to think about the impression I left on the person I was talking to or about.  Not to mention the damage it can do to their confidence &/or self esteem. Things we say to others can stick with them for a long time after we have moved on. We don’t know the damage we can do with our words – whether they are intended or not. So choose your words carefully – loose lips sink ships & cause rifts!

Make your bed everyday 

I remember giving my mum so much grief because she insisted on not only having a made bed every day but one worthy of the Home Beautiful cover. She owned more quilt covers and throw pillows than every Pillow Talk in Brisbane. Everyday she would diligently make it – cushions and all, before heading off to work or whatever the days activity was. Why? At the time I thought it was a pride thing but since having my own home and family I think it was because not matter what did or didn’t happen during the day, come bed time she could slide into fresh sheets and enjoy some time in calmness. Now having kids of my own – I do feel more “on top” of everything when I get into a made bed (not that is happens super regularly – sorry mummy) .

And never leave the house with at least a little blush and lippy.

Some would say its vanity or pride but I always feel 100 times better leaving the house on the days I have put make-up on, than on the days I haven’t. I call it confidence. For me, its about having an outwards display of how I feel about myself on the inside, as opposed to an outwards display of how I want people to see me as being on the inside. I think there is a distinct difference. Mum was the same – a bit of tinted moisturiser, blush and always lippy was all you need – she would say.

I’ll end with a quote I have seen floating around the Insta-sphere that I just love, which sums up my view just nicely I reckon! 

In case I never said it when you were here – thanks Mum! You really did know best.