Shake it up: Fitness

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Ok -so be honest, who is singing taylor swift right now? Cause the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate….I am just gonna shake, shake, shake

Funny thing is, I actually have been shaking! Shaking up my workouts. For years I have played netball. And while I love it, I have decided its time to, well shake it up!

My sister and I used to play once a week but since the end of the last season we decided to put the Thursday night netball on hold and mix it up. So every Thursday night we book in something different! So far we have played golf & squash – not overly ground breaking I know but they have both been so much fun! We have planned to also do – dancing in the dark (no light, no lycra for anyone in the Brisbane area) and jump ourselves stupid at an indoor trampoline centre. 

Also on the list
- rock climbing
– Baare body (a work out based around ballet)
– Squirmish

And open to any other suggestions anyone has!! I am feeling brave!

I find doing something different challenges you to step outside your comfort zone, challenge yourself. Try something you have no idea if your going to any good at. You might be good at it, you might suck but I guarantee you will feel better in your body and in your spirit. And if all else fails you will have fun and maybe even meet some new people!

What needs shaking up in your life? 

Is your generosity the key?

Is your generosity the key?
It is no coincidence that we are in the city we live, have the family we have or meet the people we meet. I believe that nothing is random, and therefor everything is planned and a part of a plan.

I also believe the plan for Tunns of Love is to inspire and encourage its readers to be present! Present in your environment, in your relationships and in your life. Its easy to get caught up in worry and concern about the future and what it brings. But if we can learn to trust there is a plan for us, we can stop worrying about what may or may not happen in the future and concentrate on what we are doing, thinking and being in the now. Not just because today is a part of your plan but because you might also be a key part of someone else’s.

We never truly understand what happens in the lives of those around us. As humans we get very good at not letting others see when we are feeling hurt or stressed or have something that is weighing on our minds.

But if we can train ourselves to be present in our environment, stoping and look for ways to reach out to others, its then we might start to have an impact below the surface.

It doesn’t have to be big – maybe its a card for a colleague, a $10 voucher in a random neighbours letterbox, offering to babysit friends kids (we had this offered to us recently -it was a lovely surprise to get an unplanned night off!), offering to pay for other kids to have a ride with yours at the shops or spending time with someone who you know is feeling a bit low.

We may know them, we may not but stepping out in love for someone else might not just been the key to letting them know they are not alone but it also adds something to our own wellbeing. I think it changes our heart. Finely tuning it. Generosity has a way of bringing joy to our own lives and most of us will know, it also usually always has a way of coming back to us!

Something I have always wanted to do, is to leave $5 or $10 at the register when I get a coffee for the people after me, and then just sit (incognito of course!) and watch their reaction when they find out theirs has already been paid for. I reckon it would be priceless!

If we start small, then before we know it we will be seeing opportunities to be generous everywhere. Its not about giving away lots of money – its about using small acts to show other people that they are not alone in this world, and that we are here doing life along side them. We don’t know what goes on in others lives and a small simple act might just be what they need to turn a corner!

 “Generosity lies less in giving much than in giving at the right moment” – Jean de la Bruyere

Yay winners!

Ok so since it is my blog I have decided to award more than one prize! Perks of being the boss!!

Prizes go to:
Aimee H (also known as Doris and one of my oldest friends – love you) – for the first right blog comment!
Alana DSL – for guessing first but on Facebook!
Kelly W – cause she had it but didn’t know how to comment!
And finally Tara – cause she also had it and showed extra determination to win!!

Well done ladies! Send me through your addresses either through Facebook or the contact page and I will send you a little something love worthy!

Thanks for taking part everyone!

Tunns
Xoxo

Hint hint!

Ok since no one has been able to spot the difference! I thought it best to drop you a little hint!

If you’re following me in Instagram (and if you’re not – why not?) then you may have notice a post I made on Saturday night……

Happy scrolling!

It starts with you.

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I had a revelation recently. It’s what what set the wheels in motion of the revamping of Tunns of Love. 

After reading a book over the Christmas/New Year period (which I promise to review v soon as it is awesome), Daring & Disruptive by the AMAZING Lisa Messenger (bit of a fan over here), I came to the realisation that – I had to make dreams into reality. Wow – I know this isn’t rocket science but of late it has really hit home. If I want areas of my life to be different or outcomes to be different, I actually need to invest the time and effort to make them different. Nothing is going to just magically happen which I think I have been guilty of sometimes believing would. I am actually going to have to work. 

I am going to be really honest here and say the problem for me has always been the doing part. I read recently that we have two selves. The now self and the future self. The now self is the procrastinator (that’s me), the I want to do the good/fun stuff now self. While future self is the one who basically reaps the benefits or lack there-of, from now self. If now self does nothing, future self suffers. So when now self would rather be on Pinterest procrastinating work or study or praying or being generous or putting off calling that person they know they will get stuck talking to for an hour, its future self that fails to reap the rewards. Its future self that misses out on the promotion, pay rise or relationship. 

So how do we make now self do what is best for future self. How do we stop future self from being disappointed? I am a spiritual person so I am going to look at it from a Godly perspective but even if you’re not spiritual I think the same thought process would be just as helpful. 

1. Having a clear vision of future self 

We all have dreams, I believe they are God given. Regardless of where you believe they come from – you can’t deny they are there. It might be a specific profession, it might be a business idea, or a book you want to write or it might be to parent differently, to be a better friend, employee or family member. Whatever your dream might be, it has been placed on your heart and in your mind for a reason. 

If we have a clear vision of our future selves living out that dream, we are more likely to build a stronger connection to it. A stronger desire to make it a reality.

A pastor at a women’s conference I attended spoke about the impact of our thoughts on our future. We all know about self fulfilling prophesies – what we think, we become. But what I really loved was how she mapped it out – our thoughts become our words, words become our character, character becomes our destiny. 

If we have a clear vision, and focus our thoughts on that vision, it will flow through to our lives.

2. Evaluating the gap

So how do you get there? It would be great if change could happen overnight but it will more often than not take time and will need to be planned. By working backwards and identifying the steps needed to be taken to get from where you are now to your dream, you can start to build yourself a roadmap. Do you need special training, to learn a new language, maybe you need a mentor or to consult someone else who has already done what you want to do etc. Breaking it down into smaller task will not only help to make that dream feel more achievable but will also allow you to experience the feeling of accomplishment as you complete each step. Spurring you on the do the next one!

3. Coming to terms with the effort = reward.

The only way that future self is going to reap any rewards is for now self to do the hard yards – well now! Having action after the vision is just as important as having the vision. One without the other is frivolous. 

The problem is we often don’t want to wait for the reward. But a big dream, often takes time to be turned into a big reality. And while it’s totally worth it, it’s human nature to put things in the “too hard basket, or on the “I’ll do that later pile”. This is why it so important to have a strong vision! Constantly referring our minds back to our dream, revisiting what we want to achieve and how we want to feel when we get there, is what we need to drive us to put in the effort. Acknowledging that the reward IS coming, it might not be instantly but it IS coming! 

4. Start! Go do.

Don’t think about “I don’t have time”, “maybe later in the year when I am on holidays.” Don’t do that to future self, remember your dream. Remember what it looks like for you when that dream is reality. And now start – even if it is some internet research, making some inquiries, talking to your partner. It doesn’t have to be a big step – just take a little one and start on your journey.

“Little by little, one travels far” – J.R.R Tolkein

Welcome to Tunns of Love

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I am beyond excited to finally be sharing with you the new vision for my blog! It looks different, it sounds a little different, it smells different but you know – I think you are going to love it!

So why is it different I hear you say? Tunns of Style was pretty awesome (oh that’s so kind of you to say!). Well over the past 3 or so years I have pretty much blogged about everything – from designer gowns and domestic ideas to art and philosophies about life! While (I hope) these have all been useful, Tunns of Style never really had a goal. There was no vision, no plan, no real theme – just a jumble of ideas and some pretty pictures.

But now there is a vision and, I think, it’s pretty amazing! Given it was Valentines Day yesterday- I thought it was only fitting to announce today, the new vision for the blog – Tunns of Love.

Tunns of Love is about inspiring you, challenging you and loving you! Each section and article is designed to help you love your life in the fullest, love those in your world (even the difficult ones) and love that great big world out there.

Now consisting of the brand new categories – Love Life, Love People, Love the World, Tunns of Love is the place you come to be inspired, to feel good about yourself and to get a new perspective on your life and the world. You can read more about the categories on our about page.

So please stick around – sign up, bookmark, follow and get ready to be inspired, be challenged and be loved! And most importantly – let me know what you think? Its all for you so I want to know if you love it or if you have an idea for the blog- I would love your feedback.

Change is in the air

There is nothing like the start of a new year for some change inspiration!

Did you know most people start looking for a new job in January….why? Because at the start of the year we are staring down the barrel of 365 days of infinite possibilities! The year ahead, quite literally, can be anything we want it to be. It has only just started and we are hungry for it to be different. Full of inspiration from books and beach trips that we managed to take over the holidays, we forget the disappointments of not making things happen the year before and start again.

So, like most, I have also had few epitomes of what 2015 might hold for me – a bigger vision, a bigger closet (I hope!!) and a bigger blog! There a few changes afoot at Tunns of Style…..I wont give too much away at this point but I can tell you there will be some slight design changes (you may have already noticed a few), an expanded range of topics and a whole lot more love!

Habits for the whole year!

Its hard to believe that 2014 is done and dusted!

While the tree is pending imminent deconstruction and the house is still recovering from the wake of our Christmas celebrations, I personally enjoyed saying bon voyage to 2014 and a big freakin’ howdy-doody to 2015!

2014 was a roller coaster ride for me with travelling overseas, changing jobs and the passing of my mum, I am looking forward to a (hopefully) calmer and more focused new year.

I spend a little bit of time (ok, most of my free time – ok fine, any chance I get!!!!) checking blog readers, Instagram feeds, email updates and my personal favourite Pinterest. This week has been a bombardment of  – Top 10 items to clean in your home, How to declutter to start the year fresh, or Top 3 must have resolutions for 2015. All great things to do but for me, I ALWAYS fall short at the doing part! I can create lists until the cows come home but in order for me to have a more focused year, I need to find ways to get the action happening as well as the planning! So I am spending my new years working on creating new systems that will, in turn, create new habits that I will carry through the year. My husband likes to remind me that it only takes 2 weeks to make new habits. So precious – challenge accepted.

In 2014, I felt like I really got a handle on regular housework thanks to some of the systems mentioned in my previous post How to fake being a domestic goddess. So this year I’ll will be focusing on:

1. A paperwork system that works!

Diarise monthlyThis year is my son’s first year at school. While its only pre-prep – doing a 5 day fortnight, I am already predicting the onslaught of recycling collections, birthday party invitations and parent teacher interviews. So it’s absolutely crucial that I have a way to stay on top of forms that need to go back to school, or making sure I have a present for said parties! In my first office job we had a system called “diarising’, using a monthly filing system to store any work or forms or invites etc that need attention and actioning during that month. Whether it’s sending back a form, a birthday card or reminding you of a house inspection. Invites would be put in at the RSVP dates, work that needed to be addressed on a certain day would be added to that day and so on. And every day, like clock work it would be pulled out and appear in in-trays- magic!

I set one up for my own home use at the beginning of last year and I must admit, it has not been working for me. Why? Because I can never remember to actually check it. It sat, waiting in anticipation on my desk, in the study that I would rarely go into in the morning before rushing out the door. I didn’t developed the habit of checking it. Fail :( So for 2015, I am going to attempt to kick re-start this system by setting a daily reminder (the night before) to check it! Rather than leave it to my little brain friend to remember during the busiest part of my day!

How to create a monthly diarising system:  I use a simple ring binder with numbered tabs for the days of the month. I put the items in the day I need to address them, as soon as I receive them. So if it is, for example, my house inspection notice – I put it in 2 days before so I have time to clean! Or an invite for a birthday party – it goes in on the RSVP date, then once it comes out on that day, I return in back to the day the party is on. I will also make note in my diary to buy a present on my next shopping trip.

I also have a separate folder with the months of the year to put items in their appropriate months. At the start of each month, I transfer to the daily folder.

2. Meal planning MONTHLY.

SplitShire_IMG_7416Weeks always go better when we have planned our meals and shopped accordingly. With school lunches now being added to the night before routine, meal planning is going to be critical for us this year! While each week starts with good intention, we just can’t seem to make it an ongoing habit. Four times a month is a big ask for me, so to rectify, I am going to do each month in advance! This is the plan of attack:

- Use a easily updated monthly calendar  – like a whiteboard or I like to use picture frames so I can print out a pretty calendar, frame it and use I whiteboard marker to fill out the menu each month.

- At the end of each month – check your diary for dinner dates, birthdays or any other days you wont need to cook and add those to your calendar.

- Then add your take out or take the family out nights – this might be once a week, once a fortnight or once a month – simply add as frequently as you get take out or go out.

- Pick a night each week or fortnight for a new recipe to keep it fresh – I know I have a few “pinned” that I can source from. It would be a good idea to plan to do this on a night when you know you will have time that day to prepare if necessary.

- Have a file of tried and tested meals you know everyone will eat and do a random draw to fill in the gaps!

Simples! Whack it on the fridge or somewhere you can see each morning or even the night before (so you can defrost any meat needed), add the items you need to your weekly grocery list and the hard work is done! (Do an online shop and have everything delivered to your door to take one more headache of the week!!

Its always a load off my mind when I know exactly what we are doing for dinner and that everything is ready to roll!

3. Be present – enjoy the moments

Me and my beautiful daughter.

Me and my beautiful daughter.

This one is a bit of a different vein but one I am going to really focus on this year – being present, in every moment, of every day. Sounds like a simple enough concept but a hard one to grasp when you are being torn between the list of things you need to do, the list of things you would like to do and the list of things everyone else wants you to do.

Losing mum this year has really challenged how I look at life and how easy it is to get stuck in the daily grind. I am blessed to be able to have a great balance between a job that I love and spending time at home with my children while they are young. But being the right brained, creative thinker I am – I think. About everything – work, home, future, projects, ideas. I internalise and feel like I spend a lot of time by myself, in my brain. I know, sounds nut balls but thats what it is. I know thats who I am so I wouldn’t change that but I am going to try and consciously stop thinking (is that an oxymoron?). Turn the brain off (for the most part) and enjoy my kids – laugh with them, play with them, hug them. When mum died I remember thinking, that went quickly. 30 years went quickly. I can only imagine how she must have felt. We never want good things to be over but eventually they will be – so enjoy everything. Be present!

Whatever 2015 holds for you – I hope that is it amazing and you make some new habits that help you enjoy every moment of it!

Tunns

xoxo

How to fake being a domestic goddess

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5 steps to a cleanish, productive house without being permanently chained to a mop:) Ain’t nobody got time for that.

1. Prevention is better than cure
– set up landing strip or if you have the space a mud room (i love these) before dirt and everything else get dragged through the house. See some of my fav’s here.
– spray shower after use to reduce mould and soap build up (this changed my world)
– spray stains as soon as they happen. Carpet, clothes, anything and everything. Quick action will reduced time spend scrubbing later.
– antibacterial wipes – put them everywhere! I use them ALL the time. In the kitchen/dining area – as I am constantly cleaning up food. The bathroom – great for a quick basin and toilet wipe over. I do a quick clean when the kids are in the bath (and I often find that if I give them a scrubbing brush they become a unwilling participant.)

2. If you really don’t like it either:
A. Find a way to like it (like playing your favourite music while you do it, reward yourself after or do like someone I know and pay yourself to do it), or
B. Just don’t do it. Outsource or delegate – life is way too short to spend time doing things that suck our joy.

3. Know your personalty and get a system that suits it.
If you’re a ‘planner and a scheduler ‘than schedule in that regular time. I begin by writing down EVERYTHING that has to get done – from daily task like washing to twice a year things like cleaning out the linen cupboard. Write next to it the frequency in which in needs to occur and then schedule it. The key to making any system like this work – get ready, cause this will revolutionise your life – is to actually stick to it! It’s never going to work if you don’t do things when the come due. I put them in a diary so I know in advance when I am due to do something and can plan around it. And if you’re not using a diary – well thats a whole other post all together.

If you’re more a ‘do the bare minimum  to scrap by’ kind of person, the set aside 10 minutes a day and just do one activity. Have a rolling checklist of things that need to get done around the house and work down the list. When its only 10 minutes, it firstly reduces the risk you’ll put it off and secondly it can be squeezed in anytime!

If you’re a complete “fly by nighter”, then do your housework when you’re motivated. Like an artist works when they are inspired, you too shall work when the motivation hits. Everything will get done eventually – but I reckon the key is to work until you have used all motivation! Like an old boss of mine used to say – make hay while the sun shines:)

Whatever your personality or system choice – make sure you reward yourself. Focus on what has been achieved, instead of what hasn’t. No one loves doing housework but it is one of those things that if you do feel on top of it, calmness usually follows – and that can only be a good thing.

4. Tackle the washing beast by doing a load a day. I do a load every night  and have a fab little clothes line on the wall of my laundry. Its awesome. I do a load at night after the kids have had a bath, hang it up inside (no stepping on Cane Toads here or worrying if my washing will get rained on) and by the next night it’s ready to pull down, fold and put away, or ready to wear that morning.

5. If all else fails, just make your bed – as long as you have a made bed to come home to, everything else can wait until tomorrow.